mauimoods
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posted on December 26, 2000 06:55:05 PM
Mine is, growing thicker skin and when someone rags me, I will from now on say quack quack and let whatever is said roll off me like water from a duck. And, I will try to be more patient, understanding and emulate(sp?) those I respect as role models (and there are MANY posters here that are in that role ) Oh...and finding Barry(sweetpea)Barris
Now...what is yours?
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bearmom
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posted on December 26, 2000 06:56:47 PM
To get a thick skin transplant from Maui
To get moved...soon!!!
To make more than I spend online.
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mauimoods
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posted on December 26, 2000 06:59:26 PM
I have two very good phrases that you can borrow bearmom...one I shared with oddish..and its LALALALA I CANT HEAR YOU (the thing my husband does when he doesnt want to listen...very irritating and it makes me bugshit)..or the new one...QUACK QUACK. Either one will do
[ edited by mauimoods on Dec 26, 2000 07:00 PM ]
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hammerchick
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posted on December 26, 2000 07:24:54 PM
My resolution is to not make a resolution to lose weight, to just be happy with who I am and the size I am.
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bearmom
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posted on December 26, 2000 08:15:16 PM
Hammerchick, if it doesn't stop snowing soon, so I can get out of the house and quit eating, I can be happy with who I am-Twice!!
I applaud your resolution. I used to think that dress size determined my worth, but after age 40, I just remind myself that a grandmother (someday soon, I hope) should have a lap!
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stockticker
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posted on December 26, 2000 08:16:10 PM
I'm thinking (still a few days to go)....
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roadsmith
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posted on December 26, 2000 08:39:23 PM
Mauimoods: I have the perfect way for you to grow a thicker skin. Go into politics. I was on our city council for 6 years and at first I thought I'd just collapse--but the interesting thing is that with each new tough public controversy, you just grow another layer of skin, sort of, and pretty soon you can take really tough criticism without falling apart. It was like toughening the Courage Muscle, as I call it.
We all know lots of people who could *serve* well in public office, but first you have to have the courage to *run* for office. Once that hurdle's over, nothing is as tough again.
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mybiddness
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posted on December 26, 2000 08:43:00 PM
I was all set to say that I was planning to spend more time on the important people in my life and less time on work, etc. when my daughter called to tell me she's been in a five car accident. She said she thinks that no one was injured in any of the cars. She's o.k. with a head bump - mostly crying over her car getting zapped. Now, hubby is on his way to go get her. With nightfall the bridges have gotten icy - I'll be on pins and needles til they get home.
Back to the resolutions - Yes, spending more time with my family is on the top of the list. I thought I meant it before - now I reallllly mean it!
Not paranoid anywhere else but here!
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shar9
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posted on December 26, 2000 09:02:01 PM
mybidness,
I am sorry to hear about your daughters accident. I am glad she survived with only a lump on her head. I would watch that though.
Maui,
My New Year's resolution is not to make one. I never have. I would hate being a failure.
I guess if I had to I would try to better at remembering names on the boards or at least not to torture the names.
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siggy
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posted on December 26, 2000 09:19:31 PM
Shar: don't worry about the name thing. It's more difficult online to remember who is who sometimes, especially with ID changes.
I recall years ago knowing someone quite brilliant but who just couldn't seem to get names right although she got everything else correct. Rather than struggle remembering a name when she was drawing a blank, she just took to pulling names out of the air. It was always kind of interesting to see what name she would come up with, regardless of gender. I think I was a "Fred" once. 
I still remember Maui's old sig line which I won't torture as I'll not get it right, but amounts to people will most remember the way you make them feel. So forget about forgetting names. Not a problem.
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tegan
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posted on December 26, 2000 10:07:48 PM
Two years ago this past November I made the first new years resolution that I actually ever kept.
My father passed away and I resolved to make sure I told or showed everyone that I loved at least once a month how I felt about them.
I have managed to do this in many ways. I try and make sure I'm there when the hard times come up for them and I try to send little notes and gifts "just because" not waiting for birthdays or holidays, maybe offer to help in projects or whatnot. Basically I have tried to stay open and available but I still keeping my private time to myself. It has taken very little time out of my routine but the payback has been immense.
The following year I expanded that circle to some of the people I have not got along with in the past.I'm very glad I did. My mother and I have never got along at all. It is like oil and water. I have had to swallow a bucket full of pride in my attempt to get closer to her but we talk on the phone every other day now and this fall I managed to have a wonderful visit with her in New England.
My mother had a heart attack Christmas Eve.
The prognosis is good, she is going in for a bypass in the morning but her doctor said she is strong and he is not worried. So I am trying not to. I talked to her before she fell asleep tonite and she told how much this past year has meant to her.
Without that silly new years resolution I would have missed all that we shared not to mention the bonds I have formed with my other friends. The result has amazed and changed me.
Maybe News Years resolutions don't usually work out but I am working on this years. I'm not sure what it will be. Maybe the circle needs to get a little wider still.
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mybiddness
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posted on December 26, 2000 10:13:23 PM
Tegan Thanks for sharing such a beautiful and personal story. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your mom.
Not paranoid anywhere else but here!
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njrazd
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posted on December 26, 2000 10:15:40 PM
tegan...best wishes for your Mom's surgery tomorrow. I have another friend having heart surgery in the morning as well. Will keep the prayers coming.
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mauimoods
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posted on December 26, 2000 10:25:21 PM
Roadsmith...thanks for the advice about politics, but I would be lousy at it. One, I aint smart enough; two, I would be too nice and want to do everything for everyone and that wouldnt work. But I can be a duck
Siggy...that sig line is on my homepage. I think its People will forget what you did; people will forget what you said; but people will never forget HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL. Thats very important to me. I like to make people feel GOOD if I can. Doesnt work sometimes, but I try And I like the idea of pulling names out of a hat! Sounds like it could be a fun thread for later on. Say something fun to another poster, but make up a name that doesnt exist, lol!!!
Tegan, so sorry about your mom. Hope she gets better soon.
mybidness, Im so thankful your daughter is ok, minus her car. Better the hunk of metal than her life, yes?
Shar, you can butcher my name any ol time. Kinda hard to mess up MAUI...unless you say its MOOIE, lol.
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tegan
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posted on December 26, 2000 10:53:09 PM
Thanks for the kind words.
Mybiddness: I'm glad your daughter is alright. Even if she wasn't hurt she still may be a little sore in the morning.
You might want to warn her about the morning after effect that sometimes hits you.
It scared me when I got in an accident at fifteen and my muscles were so sore the next day I could barely get out of bed.
A couple of aspirins and some rest and I was ready to go.
njrazed: Let's hope both our loved ones have a good day tomorrow.
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mybiddness
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posted on December 26, 2000 11:08:37 PM
Tegan She totally lucked out. All the other cars were heavily damaged - no injuries thank God! She was in the middle of it but somehow missed getting hit. Still, left a huge streak of yellow mustang paint all along a guard rail. It shook her up - but wait til she sees her new insurance rates....
Not paranoid anywhere else but here!
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enchanted
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posted on December 27, 2000 04:38:07 AM
tegan, hope your mom will be ok after her surgery
My New Year's Resolutions are:
1) to get more organized as I am hopelessly disorganized
2) make more friends, you can never have enough
3) be good to my husband and my family 'cause these are the good old days when you look back later, you never know how long you have with someone so make it good while you can
4) list more stuff
5) expand to one more selling site than this year
I have more but they're pretty banal.
I like having goals it gives me a guide for where I want to be.
enchanted
[email protected]
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shar9
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posted on December 27, 2000 04:57:01 AM
tegan,
I am so sorry to hear about your mother. I am glad that it sounds like she will be better after the bypass. It must have been very scary.
I am sending well wishes and a speedy recovery to your mother.
siggy, maui,
Thanks but I can really mess it up! I have also had the impression from heaven knows where that he's turned out to be she's and vice versa, that people were married to each other on the chat board and they were NOT but I enjoy just about everyone on OAI boards.
Maui,
I can think of one New Year's resolution and that is trying to keep up with the friends and people that I have met on AW and all the other boards. It is hard to read all of them and I have fallen behind but that doesn't mean that I don't miss them. Just that it takes a lot of time to read all the boards even if I don't post to all of them.
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bootsnana
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posted on December 27, 2000 05:25:07 AM
Tegan: My prayers go out for your mother's speedy recovery from her surgery.
My resolution this year is to quit smoking. I really am going to put a full effort into it this time.
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njrazd
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posted on December 27, 2000 12:47:26 PM
tegan...my friend's surgery went well this morning. They put a mechanical valve in place. She's got about an 8 week recovery, but everything is going as well as can be expected. How did your Mom's procedure go?
bootsnana...good luck on the smoking. Try and come up with a great way to spend the money you will be saving. Maybe a trip you always wanted to take, or something special you want to buy. It helps having a goal you can look forward to (besides living longer!)
My resolution this year is to not miss any family or friend's birthdays. This year was very hectic and I didn't acknowledge everyone like I would like to. I think everyone likes to feel special one day a year.
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mauimoods
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posted on December 27, 2000 01:04:46 PM
I just thought of another one.
More compassion. Im lacking there in certain categories.
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VeryModern
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posted on December 27, 2000 01:30:40 PM
I will strive to live with grace and I will not waste time. When I make choices this year, I will ask questions.
"Supposing I have only have 5 years left to live. Is this how I want to live / something I want in my life?"
I will keep learning.
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mauimoods
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posted on December 27, 2000 02:07:18 PM
Heres some more:
To post more fluffy threads and urge others to do the same. And ponderments. And...songs. And...lessee...hugfests...um...bathroom needs, and to spray-or-not-to-spray...what am I forgetting?...uh...help me out here...to keep RT as my one and only favorite place to post and not go anywhere else....hmmmm.....I gotta think about it some more
Sorry. Couldnt resist. Tis all in fun
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tegan
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posted on December 27, 2000 03:08:25 PM
njarzd:
My mother went through a quadruple bypass this morning. The doctor said it went extremely well. He expected it to take 9 hours but it didn't it only took 5
She is still sleeping so we are waiting to hear if there are any signs of stroke. He doesn't think there will be and his only worry is if there will be any bleeding if there is he will have to go back in.
She is 78 but a very strong women so I have faith she will be fine.
I'm glad to hear your friend is okay. What they can do nowadays just amazes me.We are so lucky to live in the age we do.
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bootsnana
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posted on December 27, 2000 06:50:13 PM
Tegan: please keep us posted on you mother's recovery. I wish you continued strength of faith.
njrazed: I'm glad you friend is doing well also. Thanks for the encouraging hints with my resolution. I will set a goal for the money saved.
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nobs
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posted on December 27, 2000 07:03:43 PM
My first resolution this year is to try and be a better person - a better friend, wife, Mother, customer, seller etc. I want to strive to treat people with dignity, respect and compassion and stay true to myself.
And my other resolution is to go forward and make my health the best it can be.
and I would love to be able to bring a smile to a sad face or a laugh to a hurting heart.
edited to add
oops ... I should resolve to work on my memory!
tegan
I send prayers your way - I hope everything comes out okay. I am sorry that you are going through this (and your Mother is). Please keep us posted on how you and her are doing!
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mybiddness
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posted on December 27, 2000 09:50:41 PM
Tegan I'm very glad to see that your mom did so well. You're right about the wonders of modern medical treatments... it's fabulous.
Maui More compasion? Who're you kiddin - you're just a softy!
Not paranoid anywhere else but here!
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toomanycomics
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posted on December 28, 2000 06:41:01 AM
To shed few more pounds
To finish my projects sooner
Try not let my father's constant whining get to me
To maintain my health
Try not let my mother's nagging drive me up the wall....
List more of my auctions this year
To get straight A's (hah) at college
To talk to my therapist about my mother and father
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femme
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posted on December 28, 2000 06:58:00 AM
toomanycomics,
To talk to my therapist about my mother and father
Or, you could look inward, as tegan did.
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tegan,
Admirable post on 12/26.
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stockticker
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posted on December 28, 2000 08:50:52 AM
Maui:
Looks like you got an early challenge to your New Year's resolution. You handled it well and with grace. Kudos.
Irene
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