posted on December 22, 2000 12:03:26 PM new
The holiday season is tough for most of us - missing those we have lost and long for. Last year, the candle thread brought some peace to those of us who chose to put aside our differences from the board and honor those we've lost.
So - for 2000 - a candle, in memory. All are welcome to join in.
Pat Brown - my beloved Mom
8/28/32 - 12/29/90
Ten years already. God, I miss you.
Sera Jeanette - momma's angel
8/27/96
You are loved.
Les Spear - my friend and soulmate
4/26/64 - 2/3/97
I feel you with me still.
Brandon Michael Martin
05/13/2000 - 10/02/2000
Too soon, Peanut.
posted on December 22, 2000 12:59:14 PM new
For Fern McLaughlin Lavender - For the first time in my life I face Christmas without anybody to share the true joy of the season with.
Decorating the tree by myself with your ornaments, without you being there, was beyond mere words.
posted on December 22, 2000 01:07:43 PM new
I don't know how to put a candle in my post (but would certainly appreciate anyone who can) but I would like to add to this thread ...
First - thank you Kris, this thread brings back such warm memories.
I would like to light a candle in memory of my dear Mother
Jean Marion born 1/18/27 died 3/14/82
not a day goes by that I don't think of you!
my dear sister
Jean Lorraine born 12/4/47 and died 11/29/94
I would also like to light a candle for my Father-in-law, brother-in-law and siter-in-law who all passed within the last few years.
I would also like to light a candle to a dear friend who died in Nam, another dear friend who died in a fatal car accident and another dear friend who died of AIDS.
and lastly my dear peke Ruffian who was born 11/14/74 and passed away 11/30/90. And my cat Gulliver who was born in 1984 and went out and never vame home in 1995.
posted on December 22, 2000 01:13:50 PM new
From them to you.
For Those I Loved and Those Who Loved Me
When I am gone release me, let me go, I have so many things to see and do. You mustn’t tie yourself to me with tears, Be thankful for our beautiful years.
I gave to you my love but you can only guess, How much you gave to me in happiness. I thank you for the love you and others have shown, But it is time I traveled alone.
So grieve a while for me if grieve you must, Then let your grief be comforted by trust. It’s only for a brief time we must part, So bless and hold all the memories within your heart.
I won’t be far away, for life goes on, If you really need me, call and I will come. Though you can’t see or touch me, I’ll be near, If you listen with your heart you’ll hear, All my love around you, soft and clear.
Then, when you must come this way alone, I’ll greet you with a smile andsay, "Welcome home!"
posted on December 22, 2000 01:38:23 PM new Thank you, Kris
This year a new candle has been added: my beloved friend -- "Junie-Moon" -- died three weeks ago at the very fine age of 91.
For Judy, Frankie, Reggie, Jean, Joe, Jack, Jan, Dale, Bridget, and all my Grandparents: you're always in my heart. And be sure to tell Junie a joke when ya see her; she's got a giggle that'll have every angel in heaven laughing out loud...
posted on December 22, 2000 01:43:35 PM newsgtmike - Wow. That brought tears to my eyes this time. Thank you. It's often hard to remember that they miss us, too, and our grief binds them here, when they have much to do.
Hugs back to all of you. ::wishing there were a more appropriate smile for this::
It brings me peace to know I don't feel lonely alone.
posted on December 22, 2000 09:52:04 PM new
(Kris, thank you, sweetheart...a tradition that bears repeating.)
Charlie, if I could have one more glimpse of your green, green eyes with the light in them hinting at the life you were expected to have, and should have had...an hour or two to find the right words to say to prove it to you conclusively...a day to take you away and force you to take some bit of my lifeforce to have as your own...not to be. Save a place for me.
Daddy. Maybe the sign is not in the flash of an opal that is meant to do just that, but in the hope that makes me glance at it 500 times a day, that thing with feathers that says with as much weight as faith can bear that I'll see you again. And what a glory that will be! Thank you for the great light you were and are.
A candle for my brother Brandon 9/5/75-10/26/90 and one for my grandfather, Dale. Also one for my Grandmother who just had a stroke during surgery and one for the only brother I have left who has brain cancer. Heather
For my Great Grandpa Barney, Great Grandma Peggy, Grandma Babcock, Grandpa Babcock, Grandma Vickie, Grandpa Pappy, Grandma Nana, my sister Cathy, uncle Jim, cousin Danny and cousin Greg, some of you went far too soon and I miss you all.
For Matilda, Buttercup, Bear, Flipper (I still cry when I think of that day), Spooky, BW, Gemini, Junior, Fango, Kiki, Tigger and Rascal who never had a chance at life.
~~MouseSlayer is not a cat =^..^= ~~
[ edited by mouseslayer on Dec 23, 2000 02:30 AM ]
Thank you for this thread. You must have been reading my mind that I was thinking of this Christmas without:
Daddy, who has now been gone 3 years. I miss you but I hear your voice everyday calling us girls all sis. You always made Christmas so special and I wouldn't think of Christmas without having bowls of fruit, nuts and candy sitting on the table for all to share. I know it was important to you because you remembered the depression and how hard times were then.
To; Alberta, my MIL, who has been gone 3/12 yrs, was such a great woman. Spending Christmas without you is such a sad time for dh and I. The family will never be the same.
nutspec,
I am so sorry for you and would just like to send you a {{{{{HUG}}}}}}.
nettak,
I can't even imagine losing one of my children and I am so sorry for you and your family. {{{{{HUG}}}}}
posted on December 23, 2000 11:39:07 AM new
For Sergie Terentieff - Thanks Pop for being my anchor and teaching me that there is an awful lot of fun in this life.
For my baby Brandon who didn't get the chance to enjoy his grandfather.
For my baby boy whose life ended before it had a chance to begin.
For Aunt Annie - I can still hear her baking in the kitchen after she put us to bed at night; and who taught me fish with a colander!
And last for Jonsie who was my buddy through the worst and best of times.
posted on December 23, 2000 01:34:53 PM new
Thank you Maddienicks and Shar9.
Michael was the son of a family friend who left this earth far too early. I am so thankful that my own 3 teenagers are safe at home with me. I think that to lose a child is every parents nightmare. We let our babies out on the road give them a car and a licence and in my case worry probably until they are 40.
I offer a candle for all our children, may they be kept safe throughout this christmas season, may they be kept safe forever.
posted on December 23, 2000 06:17:15 PM new
In memory of my best friend, Shirley Hartenfeld King, who died on my birthday in 1992. I'm sorry I didn't know you were sick.
In memory of my big sweet Airedale, Cliffie, who died two years ago. I still miss you.
In memory of my daughter's best friend, Jenny, who died at the age of 24 of cancer. Her 4 year old son died one year later of the same type of cancer.
And to my four grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, all to numerous to name. I think of you often, especially at Christmas time.
posted on December 23, 2000 08:49:27 PM new
I light candles regularly for those I love who have returned to the earth.
Both my parents passed away in 1995, four months apart. They had been together since 1947.
I was there when they both died. My mother from cancer. After not speaking/eating/even knowing who I was for several months, about 30 minutes before she died, she looked at me, and really SAW me, and said, "Have a great life. I did."
My father, after four months without his great love, bought me a new car (I guess to make sure that I would be safe), and took ill. Ten days later he, too, died. His final words to me: "I shall miss you, daughter." He was gone a few minutes later.
I have no other family.
I was 28 years old, about to turn 29 when my dad passed.
I am grateful for those small goodbyes, those final efforts. They gave some measure of closure for me. And peace.
I wish you all a very beautiful and gentle season.
posted on December 24, 2000 04:39:30 AM new
Mmmmm, great thread.
To my Dad, who left us August 16, 2000. He loved his family and always made sure we knew it. Christmas won't be the same without "Thanks Love".
To my Great Aunt Mary, or Meya as we all called her. She left us Feburary 27, 1997. She was like a mom to me ever since I was a little girl. Life was harsh to her, but it made her sweeter not bitter. She was homemade fudge, fancy cutout cookies at Christmas, and chasing shadows in the street lights.
To Grandma, who left us in August of 1997. Somehow she knew all of her siblings were gone, and she needed to join them. Life was also harsh to her, she raised her family in the years following the depression. The impact of that never fully left her.
